RELAXING: YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG!

“Self-care” has recently become a buzzword, but what does it actually mean?

I often hear clients say “I know I should do more self-care,” and I ask them what they mean by self-care. Their answers usually start with “Oh umm, I don’t know…” and end with things like “maybe eating healthier,” “probably get more massages,” and “take a vacation.”

Nobody ever says self care might look like sitting in a dark room and grieving for an old version of yourself that you’re letting go of before you start a new chapter of your life.

Nobody ever says self care might look like spending an hour at the shooting range.

Nobody ever says self-care might look screaming into a pillow, or writing an angry letter, or learning Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.

But trust me, those are all perfectly legitimate forms of self-care, depending on who you are, what you’re going through, and what you need.